What People Mean When They Say “There’s a Hole in Your Soul”

There’s a phrase people use that sounds dramatic at first: “It feels like I have a hole in my soul.” Even though it’s not a real hole, it describes a real feeling many people face. It’s that quiet sense of emptiness you try to ignore but can’t fully escape.

A “hole in the soul” shows up when something deep inside you has been wounded. Maybe it came from trauma, rejection, loss, or years of trying to be strong for everyone else. It’s the kind of pain that stacks up over time until it feels like a missing piece. Most people describe it as feeling empty, numb, or disconnected. You can be in a room full of people and still feel alone. You can hit goals, chase success, or stay busy and still feel like something is missing. It’s not that something is “wrong” with you. It’s that something inside you needs care and healing.

This kind of inner emptiness usually forms when a deep need goes unmet—like love, belonging, safety, identity, or purpose. When those needs are damaged or ignored, the heart tries to protect itself. That protection can look like shutting down, acting out, or trying to fill the emptiness with things that bring quick comfort but no real peace.

Spiritually speaking, this “hole” is the part of us that longs for connection with God. Only His love can reach the deepest places in us. No job, relationship, habit, or hustle can take His place.

The good news? A hole in your soul is not a life sentence. Healing is possible. God restores what life tried to steal from you. He fills empty places with His peace, His identity, His truth, and His love. If you feel like there’s a gap inside you, take it as a sign—not of failure, but of an invitation. Your soul is asking for attention, compassion, and time with God.

There’s always hope. There’s always a way forward. And your story isn’t finished yet.